Reconnecting with your Higher Self
In the quiet moments of reflection, many women find themselves asking, "Why can't I hear my higher self?" Despite years of self-help books, therapy sessions, and spiritual practices, that profound connection remains elusive. The inner critic continues its harsh monologue, familiar problems repeat themselves, and a persistent feeling of disconnection shadows daily life.
If this resonates with you, you're not alone. What many dismiss as "normal anxiety," "just menopause," or "life's challenges" may actually be signals from fragmented parts of yourself seeking integration and healing.
The Fragmentation We All Experience
We all carry fragmentation within us. These fragments develop as protective mechanisms when we face challenges we don't know how to process. While these protective parts once served us well, they often continue operating long after the original threat has passed.
Signs that your protective parts are active include:
A persistent inner critic
Recurring problems or patterns in relationships
Chronic self-doubt and feelings of "I can't do that"
Low self-worth despite external achievements
Overwhelming fatigue that seems disproportionate
Feeling disconnected from your intuition or spiritual guidance.
These patterns aren't character flaws—they're protective strategies developed by parts of yourself that are stuck in past trauma. And this trauma doesn't have to be what we traditionally consider as "capital-T trauma." Even smaller wounds, especially when experienced repeatedly, can create this fragmentation.
Why You Can't Hear Your Higher Self
When our fragmented parts are actively trying to protect us, they create energetic interference that makes connecting with our higher consciousness difficult. These parts operate from fear and protection, drawing us into lower frequency energetics.
The more we resist or fight against these parts, the more energy gets locked in maintaining these defensive patterns. This creates a cycle of depletion, leaving us tired, overwhelmed, and disconnected from our higher capacities of calm, clarity, compassion, connection, curiosity, and courage.
It's nearly impossible to hear your higher self when these fragmented parts are constantly on alert, believing they must protect you at all costs.
The Problem with Conventional Approaches
Many traditional approaches to healing inadvertently worsen this fragmentation:
Positive affirmations can silence important messages from wounded parts
Some mindfulness practices may bypass rather than integrate emotional wounds
Traditional therapy may intellectualize trauma rather than release it energetically
Spiritual practices can become another form of escape rather than integration.
When we use these techniques to suppress our parts rather than understand them, we create what's known as "spiritual bypassing"—using spiritual practices to avoid facing unresolved emotional issues.
A Different Path to Healing
True healing comes not through controlling or silencing these protective parts, but through connecting with them with curiosity and compassion.
Internal Family Systems therapy offers a powerful framework for this integration. This approach recognizes that our psyche contains multiple sub-personalities or "parts," each with positive intentions for our wellbeing, even if their methods are outdated or causing distress.
When we learn to recognize these parts, appreciate their protective intentions, and understand the origins of their strategies, profound healing becomes possible. Often these parts developed their protective strategies during childhood or in response to ancestral trauma, and they simply need compassionate updating.
The process involves:
Noticing when a part is activated
Approaching it with curiosity rather than judgment
Understanding its protective intention
Acknowledging the validity of its original strategy
Gently updating its understanding of your current reality
Integrating its energy into your whole self
This approach aligns beautifully with the energetic healing principles shared by David Clements of Infinite Source Creations. Through stargate transmissions, Clements accesses higher dimensional healing energies that help clear blocked energy patterns and regenerate our mind-body-spirit system.
Softness as Strength
My approach to guiding women through this healing journey emphasizes developing softness, trust, and self-love. This isn't weakness—it's recognizing that the forceful control we've been taught is actually what depletes us.
The more we try to control our parts, the more we take ourselves into an energy state that is out of sync with our higher self. True strength comes from integration, not domination.
Think of how you would approach a distressed child—would you scold them into silence, or would you kneel down, listen to their fears, and offer comfort? Our fragmented parts need this same compassionate attention.
Your Transformation Journey
Working with me, you'll connect to your own unique story and inner landscape. Together, we'll create a safe space for your fragmented parts to be heard, understood, and integrated.
As these parts are welcomed home, energy that was once locked in maintaining protective patterns becomes available for healing and connection. This integration creates space for your higher self to be heard more clearly.
Women who engage in this work often experience:
Relief from chronic anxiety and fatigue
Clearer intuitive guidance
Improved relationships as old patterns resolve
Greater self-compassion and reduced self-criticism
A deeper spiritual connection.
This healing isn't about adding more spiritual practices to your already full plate—it's about removing the energetic blocks that prevent your natural connection to spirit from flowing freely.
You Already Contain Everything You Need
The beautiful truth is that you already contain everything needed for your healing. Your higher self has been there all along, waiting for the space to be heard. Your fragmented parts hold wisdom that, once integrated, becomes your greatest strength.
Are you ready to embark on this journey of integration? To transform fragmentation into wholeness? To finally hear the gentle guidance of your higher self that has been there all along?
Together, we can create the space for your true self to emerge—not through force, but through the gentle power of understanding, compassion, and love.